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4 Rules to Break after 50 by guest blogger Nina Bandoni

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Wednesday, 28 June 2017 / Published in Friends and Family, Home, Lifestyle & Leisure, News, Rants and Random Thoughts, Style & Beauty

4 Rules to Break after 50 by guest blogger Nina Bandoni

This week, I am delighted to introduce you to my friend, the beautiful and fashionable Nina Bandoni from Florida. Nina and I were both part of the Fierce 50 Revolution launch way back in February and I have enjoyed getting to know her through her very interesting blog ‘Sharing a Journey’.  Nina is guest blogging and I know you will want to read her recently published post ‘4 Rules to Break after 50 ’, complete with the photos she used (below). We would both love to know if you agree with her or maybe you have some of your own to add.

 

Here is some background on this talented lady, pictured above:

Nina spent her early years writing, drawing and taking photographs; her parents were terrified that she would write and dream and never pay her bills, so to make her proud she went to business school and became a respectable corporate woman whose career centred around real estate financing and making housing available to low income families. 

In January 1999, she became a mother at age 39, long after all her friends, and in 2001, she founded a successful consultancy which helps non-profit organisations grow.  In 2008, she surprised herself and those around her by running for public office, won and served as a city commissioner for six years. Always one for self-reflection, she became a Kundalini yoga instructor…and yoga and meditation plays an important role in her life to this day. 

 Midlife has brought surprises, including the end of her 25-year marriage, menopause, and a new relationship with Roger. That’s why she started ‘Sharing A Journey’. You can follow her by clicking HERE. I know you will love reading her posts as much as I do!)

 

‘4 Rules to Break after 50!’ by Nina Bandoni  

The world is full of “rules”.  It seems as if there are more rules for women than men, and even more rules for older women than young.  Ladies, I’m here to tell you:  some rules are made to be broken, and here are four I think need to be swept into the bin, right this minute.  As full-grown women, we are entitled to do what we want and wear what we like.  I certainly don’t want to be directed by some arcane rule, because someone thinks it’s “appropriate,” or be told by some kid what to wear and what not to wear.  I’m on a rip today, so let’s jump right in.

Get your hair cut short by your 50th birthday (or before).    

When I was in my twenties, my former mother-in-law took me aside to discuss my long hair.  It wasn’t befitting a married woman, and sent the wrong message to men, she said.  I’d never heard such a thing; it triggered bad memories of ugly pixie haircuts forced on me as a child – so the whole conversation pushed a zillion buttons.  I chose not to get my hair cut until several years later, on my own terms.  I wore it short for a while and hated it, so I grew it back out a few inches below my shoulders. I felt like “me” again.

Fast forward to age 38, I was reminded that 4-0 was right around the corner and that I should think about cutting my hair to an “age appropriate” length.   Magazines with beauty “experts” decreed that a woman’s hair should be cut to her shoulders or above at no later than age 40 and to the jaw or above by age 50.  No one knows where the rule came from – some say it’s just “appropriate” and some say short hair makes us look younger. We weren’t supposed to question where the rule came from or why, we were just supposed to do it.  Whether you wear your hair long or short, it should not be because it is “appropriate” but because it is how YOU like it. BAM!

Never, ever let them see a grey hair.

My fashionista grandmother employed a dubious hairdresser called Monsieur Dupree, who gave her a “platinum” pixie colour and cut. Her hair had been a beautiful, healthy chestnut brown before he did his magic, turning her tresses into what looked like the pelt of a dirty poodle.  The idea was for her to be an exotic blonde, while hiding a few grey hairs that had started to emerge.  Instead, there was a year where she wore hats and scarves while her severely damaged hair grew out.

So here’s my rule: if you want to colour your hair, and it makes you feel good and look good, by all means do it, just don’t go to a Monsieur Dupree.  And if you want to go grey. do that!  I have a Pinterest board devoted to gorgeous women with grey hair, in case you are in need of some inspiration.

Older women should wear little to no make-up, and certainly no bright colours.  

To that I say, let’s get out the paints and play!  Our skin tone and hair colour is changing.  Now is the time to try a bunch of colours and see what looks good.  My friend Christine has exquisite thick white hair and very pale skin.  She rocks a 50s’ red lip and a nip of eyeliner along her lash line. Simple and gorgeous.  Me, I like blush, a smokey eye and usually a nude lip. We are all different. Play a little. Have some fun. If you have always worn your make-up a certain way, try something new.  If you’ve got it nailed, make a YouTube video and teach the rest of us!

If you wore it when it was first in style, give it a pass when it comes back around the second (or third) time.

If you love leather pants, for example, but you wore them when you were in your twenties, and you are wondering if you should pass this time around, take a good, close look at yourself in the mirror.  Are they “you”? Do they fit well? Do you feel amazing in them?  You know when something works. If you are feeling a little iffy, then pass. That’s what “iffy’ means. When it comes to style, we walk the fine line of holding on to the old styles vs. taking the risk of trying something new – so take your time. Get to know the “you” who is emerging. Many of the things we wore “way back when” can be incorporated into our wardrobes – that’s how great style is achieved. Sometimes, just one interesting piece from the past is all it takes to make the style statement we are after.

Sorting out our personal style requires honesty and time. Style evolves and shifts all the time, just like life. Updates and tweaks freshen our look and keep us from becoming dowdy and matronly or like crazy fashion victims stuck in the past.

Here’s the key takeaway: for every “rule” I can think of, I know a friend or celebrity who shrugs her shoulders and breaks it. Find what makes you happy and unique. Wear what gives you confidence and signals the awesome woman you are.  If you like to follow rules, that’s ok too.  Being you is what we are talking about here.

(Stock photos by Canva) 

Tagged under: beauty rules, breaking rules, guest blog, Nina Bandoni, Rules

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5 Comments to “ 4 Rules to Break after 50 by guest blogger Nina Bandoni”

  1. Jan Wild says :Reply
    June 29, 2017 at 6:30 am

    Love this post from Nina, but you knew that already. I find it amazing that (mostly younger) women feel they have the right to tell others how to dress. I also hate the outfit shaming that goes on in the media after an event like the Oscars. What sheer arrogance x

  2. Suzanne Mountain says :Reply
    June 29, 2017 at 8:45 am

    Great blog, thanks for sharing it with us Hilda & Nina

  3. Deborah Blacoe says :Reply
    June 29, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    Great post. And I fully agree…..

  4. Hilary Hughes says :Reply
    June 30, 2017 at 12:15 am

    I must say Nina says all the things that I agree with. When we get on in age we know what suits us and what doesn’t work. Confidence and feeling comfortable with what you are wearing are important and not becoming matronly or trying to relive our teenage days. Makeup and hair will always be top of my list and I will hold out as long as I can not to go grey (or should I say not to show the grey)!

  5. Hilary Hughes says :Reply
    June 30, 2017 at 12:21 am

    I must say Nina says all the things that I agree with. When we get on in age we know what suits us and what doesn’t work. Confidence and feeling comfortable with what you are wearing are important and not becoming matronly or trying to relive our teenage days. Makeup and hair will always be top of my list and I will hold out as long as I can not to go gray (or I should say not to show gray)!

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